I Am A Bitch Magnet O_o

And they can be of either gender too. ;)

I think I may need a new perfume .. or better soap .. or .. something .. because it seems that no matter what forum I find .. how nice and polite and friendly I try to be .. how many smilies I feel forced to use to show that I'm being as NON-threatening as I can be .. I STILL get MY posts zeroed in on .. as if it's someones civic duty to shut .. me .. down. O_o

It happened on the MO:UL forum so many times I vowed NEVER to post there again EVER. O_O

I asked 2 of my friends to have a peek on the FoG forum .. am I just imagining it ?? .. I needed them to be as HONEST in their assessment as they could be .. just for my own peace of mind. They are in complete agreement with me .. these 2 people DO seem to find my posts .. one even quotes them .. and proceed to have their wicked way with me picking apart whatever I post. I've had threads about things I've accomplished hi-jacked with stuff they did in the same missions .. cuz they did it better of course .. and I even got chastised for "sounding" angry .. among other things. O_o

Not enough smilies I guess ?? :\

So now .. here I am in the throes of peri-menopause .. and I find a forum that's pretty well run .. lots of information and great support .. after signing up and discovering that the "abbynormal" is now gonna be the "normal" for me for a while anyway .. I decide to post. There was a discussion and someone mentioned researching Red Raspberry Leaf as an aid for very heavy flow, painful cramps and irregular periods.

Now this is something I happen to know something about .. as I've used Red Raspberry Leaf tea for YEARS with GREAT success with it in regulating things for me. I cannot say enough good things about it as a useful herbal aid for setting things right in that department.

So .. I post such .. explain my successful experience with it .. and explain a little about why it works as it does. It has been used traditionally to aid in easing childbirth .. so VERY safe to be taken while pregnant .. and restoring tone to the uterus after delivery. Also .. it's very useful in regulating periods .. from heavy flow .. to too slow flow .. too long periods .. to painful cramps, etc. It is also touted as an aid for menopausal issues of the oh-so-very messed up periods that come with that .. and of this I CAN vouch .. so I'm trying it now to see if it actually DOES work with this as well.

The way it does this is by balancing estrogen and/or progesterone levels by flushing excess hormones out of your system .. certainly seems a much better way than pumping you full of whatever hormone is less .. even if it means giving you large doses to bring your levels UP to match the one in EXCESS. O_o And .. by my experience with it regulating my periods and reducing those awful cramps I suffered with all of my life .. I can say on that front it works beautifully !! Intially I took 2 capsules of whole herb 3 times a day for months .. it takes a while .. but it WORKED .. then I switched to the tea as I liked it better.

Anyway ....... of all the posts in that thread .. MINE gets singled out .. with a remark .. "no offense to the one drinking the tea .. but NO tea is gonna help with heavy flow and pain". This from someone who is advocating all manner of surgical proceedure as it was what *she* did. O_o

I'm getting awfully tired of this crap ya' know .. I don't know what it is about my posts that seem to attract that type. I take care to make my posts legible .. spelled correctly .. try to add appropriate emots .. and make it as intelligently presented as I can make them. I think it's like tinder to some with "lightning" personalities, though. How DARE I post any sort of intelligent data .. or a cohesive opinion !! O_o

Especially one that does NOT agree with how *they* think .. the sheer GALL of me. O_O

I suppose .. I could start expressing myself in near illegible forum-speak that reduces language to short forms and acronyms that feign to make sense. Toss spelling .. grammar .. punctuation .. and stop giving a rats rosy red hinderend what ANYONE thinks .. just ramble it on out there and let others deal with it as *their* problem. But .. I just cannot bring myself to look like I've just slithered out of the shallow end of the intelligence pool.

Another option of course is to just stay the hell away from forums of ANY sort and leave the BS to those who love to dish it out so they can wallow in the cozy feeling of controlling others .. because it is .. after all .. ALL about them in the world. Yet .. I still feel like I want to contribute to something if I am in a position to do so .. rather then just invisibly lurk .. so I'm not really sure what the solution is.

One of my friends .. who did look at the threads I pointed him to .. probably has the best take on it all .. he rarely reads ANY forums .. he says they are a breeding ground for those who love to spread abuse and hate and discontent .. and for those who either lack the spine to stop them or worse .. ARE them .. even telling me I'm better than that by a wide margin .. and to not let the likes of those types diminish the person that I am. It was nice to hear and a person needs to hear such things once in a while .. or I do anyway. :)

Since I haven't yet figured out how to NOT let it all get to me .. I've been off the FoG forums since that crap of a couple of weeks ago .. and maybe it's just the better way to go as I can come up with no better way to handle it .. because I have NO intention of getting in touch with my inner illiterate so that I might fly under the sharp eyed radar of those ready to jump on any intelligent expression. It's just a shame that there are those with so little sense of self that they MUST pick others apart to reassure themselves that not only are they worthy people .. they are BETTER than others on all fronts.

To which I can honestly say .. they phail epically .. :\